The next-to-the-youngest may be jumping up and down on a chair... "You're going to fall down." I would have said, "Keep your legs straight so you don't fall down." End result, the kid falls on his head.
Kids are eating spaghetti in a restaurant: "You're going to splash sauce on your clean shirt." I would have placed a big napkin to work as a bib and said "... so you don't get your shirt dirty." End result, kid gets blasted for spilling spaghetti sauce on his shirt.
Why is is so difficult to stop sending out negative premonitory messages?
Oh, the king of all messages: "You're a klutz... You'll never get anything right." End result, bad behaviour in school, low grades.... The child's reasoning: "Well, this is the way I'm supposed to be, if my grownups keep telling me so."
Did I do the same when I was a father? It's great that I don't remember. But from my kid's turn out, I guess not.
|"Ráscalo en la cabeza porque le gusta y no te morderá".|